After Miscarriage
QUESTION: After miscarriage - How do I overcome the fear?ANSWER:After miscarriage, a woman's heart and mind can so easily be filled with fear. Questions fill her mind: "Why did this happen? How can I go on from here? Can I get pregnant again? If I do get pregnant, will I go through the same thing again?" These are just a few of the fearful question a woman may face after miscarriage. Let me introduce you to someone who has been through it and dealt with those questions that raise so much fear in a woman's heart.
"I am one who has been through the furnace of miscarriage. I was 29 years old when I got married, and became pregnant one year later. We were so excited. Three months after that I was waiting for my body to abort on its own because the baby had died. It was a very hard time. I wanted to question, 'Why?' over and over again. I got angry, depressed, and cried a lot. The doctor finally took me in and induced labor. Once the baby was delivered, he told us that they thought that it would have been a boy; then I was finally able to bring an end to the situation and move on with my life.
"The next pregnancy was twins - and I lost them at 16 weeks. They were girls. Some of the same feelings occurred. When it was over, I knew I had to move on once again. But I also knew I had to let myself grieve over these losses.
"The third pregnancy I lost at 7 weeks. At this point, I began to think I would never have a baby to hold and love."
Many women would be too fearful to try again. How did this woman overcome the fear?"The only hope that made me know I could get though this was my relationship with Jesus Christ. I knew He was the giver and taker of life. I knew what the Bible said about life after death. The question was, 'Was I going to accept it and let Him have His will and way in my life, or go through life being angry at God because of what He allowed in my life?'
"I decided I had to accept what the Lord was allowing. He does know what is best for each one of us. Miscarriages happen to protect the baby from living in this world with something wrong with it, or to protect us from these issues. God knows how much we can handle, and He says He will not give us more than we can bear. I also looked at the miscarriages as protecting us from having a wayward child who would never chose to follow the Lord.
"The greatest comfort is knowing in my heart, like David in the Bible, that I will see those babies once again. Because they are in Heaven and I know that is where I am going when I die. I have
accepted what Christ did for me on the cross when He died for me and took my place. He is my Savior.
"Now I tell people I have had seven children - four in Heaven and three on this earth."
After miscarriage - how do you overcome the fear? Accept what has happened, and understand that most women who have had a miscarriage are able to have successful pregnancies/births afterward. (Talk to your doctor about this.) Take comfort in knowing your child is in Heaven, and if Jesus Christ is your Savior you will see your child again.
