Dealing With Verbal Abuse

QUESTION: What are some tips for dealing with verbal abuse?

ANSWER:

Here are some tips for dealing with verbal abuse:

Remain calm and choose words carefully. A hurtful word becomes a destructive weapon, and our first reaction is to retaliate with hurtful words. Speaking good and uplifting words back in kind, will bring confusion to the abuser. The power of life and death is in the tongue. Breathe life-giving words.

Control your emotions. Do not lash back with more of the same emotions that are coming at you. React with wisdom, not with feelings.

Guard your heart. Do your best to not take the hurtful words personally.

Understand abuse. Verbal abuse makes a person feel unloved, unwanted, unnecessary, and unworthy. The abuser must destroy the personís self-esteem to make them feel more powerful and in control. When in actuality, it is the abuser who is the insecure one. The abusive patterns are the abuserís way of regaining security.

Concentrate on who you are to God.

  • God created me (Psalm 130:13-18).
  • I am not alone (Deuteronomy 31:6).
  • I am loved by God (John 3:16)
  • I am not afraid (2 Timothy 1:7)
  • I can do all things through Christ (Philippians 4:13).
ďAnd now, dear brothers and sisters, let me say one more thing as I close this letter. Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praiseĒ (Philippians 4:8).

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WHAT DO YOU THINK? - We have all sinned and deserve God's judgment. God, the Father, sent His only Son to satisfy that judgment for those who believe in Him. Jesus, the creator and eternal Son of God, who lived a sinless life, loves us so much that He died for our sins, taking the punishment that we deserve, was buried, and rose from the dead according to the Bible. If you truly believe and trust this in your heart, receiving Jesus alone as your Savior, declaring, "Jesus is Lord," you will be saved from judgment and spend eternity with God in heaven.

What is your response?

Yes, today I am deciding to follow Jesus

Yes, I am already a follower of Jesus

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