Overcoming Adultery

QUESTION: Is overcoming adultery possible?

ANSWER:

Overcoming adultery is possible when you have the right relationship with the right Person.

For three years, I was entangled in an adulterous affair that seemed impossible to escape. The affair had nothing to do with a desire for sex on my part. What I longed for was intimacy. That was what the other man provided, or so I thought. My relationship with him was more than an "act." It was an expression of a deep longing to share my innermost being with another person. Overcoming adultery, at that time, was not only impossible, but unthinkable.

But, the other man could not always be there for me. Like me, he also had a spouse and children. So, we went to great lengths to spend time together. Much of that time was taken up with sexual activity; but, that didn't matter to me as long as he affirmed me and talked with me. Still there were many anxious and tearful hours, when I did not hear from him and could not be with him because of family obligations. I grew jealous of his relationship with his wife. I began to demand more and more of his time.

Our activities became more risky as we tried to make more time to be alone together. We began to risk the loss of our jobs and our marriages. I wound up getting pregnant with his child; but, because neither of us wanted to end our marriages, I aborted the baby. Still the affair continued.

When we could not take the relationship any further, the affair ended. Truth be told, neither of us could fulfill the others deepest longings.

When the affair ended, my husband graciously received me back. Our marriage remained intact, but my heart was far from my husband. The relationship that he and I had before the affair was never completely restored. Within a few short years, my husband suddenly passed away.

However, between the time the affair ended and the time of my husband's passing, we each gave our hearts to the Lord Jesus Christ. In Jesus, I found the one relationship that I had been searching for all along. Jesus is the one Person who will never leave me nor forsake me. Jesus truly loves me unconditionally. Jesus comforts me when I'm lonely. Jesus is always here for me!

If you are entangled in an adulterous affair and have not accepted Jesus Christ into your life, I encourage you to do so. Give total control of your life and relationships to the One who truly cares for you and knows what's best for you. Sinful activities will lose their appeal as your love for the Savior takes precedence in your life.

Jesus Christ loves you so much that He gave His life for you two thousand years ago. He gave His life so that you would no longer be a slave to sin. He gave His life so that you would no longer have to seek fulfillment in anything or anyone other than Him. His love for us is greater and more satisfying than any earthly love affair. Even the most loving person will let you down and disappoint you. But Jesus never will. You can have an intimate relationship with God, by asking Jesus Christ to be the Lord of your life today!