Single Mother, Empty Nest – Finding Purpose
What was my purpose? As a teenager, when I found out I was pregnant, I knew that I had found my purpose -- I knew how to take care of babies and children. I could love this little one and care for him and he would love me in return. So, when the nest became empty, my purpose vanished! It took me a long time to realize what had happened.
I found great purpose and help from the Bible. God tell us to love Him with ALL of our heart, mind, soul, and strength. There's such validity to that. While I knew my sufficiency and identity was in Christ Jesus, I didn't put feet to it. I tried to find friends, connections, intimacy, and it just wouldn't happen; and if it did, I didn't recognize it anyway.
I'm disappointed that it took me seven years of bumbling around trying to find my place and purpose, but God is faithful. He didn't waste a minute of that time. He was calling me to “Be still and know that I am GOD,” to rest in Him, to let Him be enough. He brought me to this place of singleness for His own purposes.
“The basis of my personal worth is not my possessions, my talents, not esteem of others, reputation. . .not kudos of appreciation from parents and kids, not applause, and everyone telling you how important you are to the place. . .I stand anchored now in God before whom I stand naked, this God who tells me ‘You are my daughter, my beloved one.’”1