Single Woman Ė Is there any hope for marriage?
As a single woman, have you ever considered the married couples you know and thought to yourself "Iím just as pretty as she is. Why donít I have a husband, too? Whatís wrong with me?" If you have ever had a thought like this, I want to assure you that you are not alone.
The desire to be married and have a husband and home to care for is deeply ingrained in us as women. While the prospect of being a wife is wonderful, the continual longing to be changed from a single woman to a married woman can be a heart-wrenching and miserable emotional time. I know.
I was single myself until the age of 41. I hoped, prayed, struggled, looked around at other women who were married, and compared myself with them countless times, wondering why I hadnít been chosen as a wife yet. Since I am a Christian, my main thought was "I am following You, God, not dating anyone, waiting for You to choose a husband for me. Iíve behaved myself. How come You havenít given me a husband, God?"
You may be asking yourself the same question. As a single woman, desiring to be married, should you trust God to give you a husband? Is marriage a state of being He has in mind for you? Does God care how difficult it is for you to wait for marriage? Will God change His mind about marriage being a good thing? Does God have plans for your life as a wife?
Single Woman Ė The Tough Questions
As a single woman, these are tough questions. Letís look at them together and find some answers:
- As a single woman, desiring to be married, should you trust God to give you a husband?
- Is marriage a state of being that He has in mind for you?
Isnít that great?! God designed marriage! He is the One who decided that it was not good for man to be alone. It is absolutely right that you, as a single woman, desire to be married. God created you that way. You were made, by God, to be a companion to your husband!
- Does God care how difficult it is for you to wait for marriage?
You can talk with God about your desire to be married. He cares about how you feel and He is waiting for you to talk with Him about it. You can give all your concerns to Him and trust that He has your very best in mind.
- Will God change His mind about marriage being a good thing?
And in the book of Numbers 23:19, we read: "God is not a man, that he should lie. He is not a human, that he should change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?"
- Does God have plans for your life as a wife?
We can continue reading about Godís plan for us as wives in verses 26-30: "When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions. She carefully watches all that goes on in her household and does not have to bear the consequences of laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: ĎThere are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!í Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised."
Single Woman Ė Godís Plan
As a recently married woman, I look back on the time when I was single and I see that God was working things out the whole time -- even when I thought He wasnít there, or didnít care how miserable I felt. I learned to trust Him and to tell Him all the things I was concerned about. You can also learn to trust God for marriage. It was His idea in the first place!
What is your response?
Yes, today I am deciding to follow Jesus
Yes, I am already a follower of Jesus
I still have questions